People often think that only those with heavy mental problems need counseling. Or some people don’t want to seek counseling because they’re afraid of being dubbed ‘crazy’ or ‘a lunatic.’ But this shouldn’t be the case. Using counseling service is good for our mental health and peace of mind. You don’t have to be severely depressed to be using counseling services. In fact, it’s better to receive counseling early on, before you fall into the deep dark pit that is depression. The article describes signs you need counseling plus a video about 6 ways to cure depression.
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Before reading more about 10 signs you need counseling, let’s watch a video below:
These are 10 signs you need counseling
1. You always think negative
You immediately think of the worst-case scenario whenever something bad happens. Or even worse, even though the current situation is just fine, you get anxious that things will eventually fall apart. The counselors call this trait catastrophizing. You are so pessimistic until you can not think straight and see things for what they are, everything is murky in your mind.
2. Your mind often tortures yourself
You are your own greatest enemy. It feels like nothing you do is good enough. And when you make a mistake, you keep replaying the mistake in your head until you get dizzy. You start to tell yourself that you’re a failure, that you don’t deserve anything good, that you don’t deserve others’ love and care.
In other cases, self-torture can be in the form of difficulty to heal from certain trauma. If you have been through something that keeps bugging your mind, no matter how trivial it may seem, you may need to reach out to counseling services. This is especially if the thought of that traumatizing experience makes it hard for you to function daily.
3. You always avoid a difficult situation
You postpone every one of your tasks in the back of your mind and tiptoe around your problems. If you always dodge, you will not solve your problem. Sometimes all we have to do is face our problems head-on and deal with the aftermath.
4. You take responsibility for other people’s problems
If there are people who avoid fear and stress by avoiding responsibility, there are also people who take over something that should be the responsibility of others.
For example, you always pay for a family member’s excessive shopping, even though they are old enough to be able to pay for their own expenses. This type of behavior is called over-functioning.
5. You are too dependent on other people, alcohol or drugs to cope with stress
If you always depend on your friends to maintain your mood and sanity, that means there is a problem. You should be able to solve your own problem without having to rely too much on others.
An overreliance on anything and anyone is not good. Not even reliance on liquor or certain drug to keep your mood is a good thing. People often think a drink or two every few days is harmless, but if the pattern continues on, when you are going through a difficult time this can turn into an addiction.
There are also people who have a habit of overeating or lazy eating to ease their stress. If you have these types of behavior you should consider seeking counsel before you find yourself gaining 50 kilos in a month.
Picture 3. A Drunk Woman (Pixabay)
6. You lose interest in your favorite activities
You used to enjoy reading, but somehow nowadays you find that reading is not fun anymore. In the past, your group of friends never failed to make you laugh, but now you’re too lazy to even go out of the house.
Nothing ever piques your interest nor get your blood pumping in excitement. You feel that all the activities you usually like have become so boring, and the whole world so is so bland and tasteless. You should look for the root of your lack of interest, maybe there’s a deeper problem that makes you feel unhappy.
Picture 4. A Bored Woman (Pixabay)
7. Work is getting messy
Stress, in the smallest amount, will affect your work drive. Your work pile up. Your friends are confused about why you seem to have no interest to do anything. Your boss gets disappointed because your usually neat work is now messy.
Your attention span and concentration level will decrease when you’re depressed. Be careful with this situation.
8. You are more distant
Your relationship with others should make you feel happy and not alone. But for some reason, you find yourself avoiding contact with people around you, even your family and friends, the ones you are closest with. You get more distant with them and you are always on your own. This is a demon cycle you have to set yourself from.
Picture 5. A Sad Woman (Pixabay)
9. You care too much about others’ opinion
We are all humans with insecurities, everyone must be at least a little concerned with the opinions of others. This is natural. But what’s unnatural is when you change too much of yourself to be able to adapt to the environment around you, or worse, so you can adapt to other people’s preference and or be liked more.
People who are so chameleon-like usually feel unhappy with themselves. According to research, they are more prone to depression.
10. People around you realize that something wrong with you
People who are closest to you are aware that there is a change. You are usually cheerful but now you’re always gloomy. You are usually the life of the party but now you can’t even drag yourself out of the room. They will express concern for you or at least ask what’s wrong with you. Read more about 99 ways to be happier here.
Picture 6. A Sad Woman (Pixabay)
It’s natural if sometimes you are sad. It’s also natural if you suffer from a bad mood. But, if it happens too often, it means there is something wrong. And that’s not okay.
You should not be perfect. You are human. Coming to counselors and therapists doesn’t mean you’re crazy. It means that you care about your own mental health and want to be productive and live your life well. Read more about how to become mentally healthy here.
Meeting professional psychologists and counselors can help you straighten out your tangled mind. They will help you to resolve your problems.
If you feel like you need to meet counselors, but you are confused about where to go, don’t worry. You are not alone. Get the support you need from one of REGAIN counselors, feel free to check out the link here.
They are not going to judge you, will not tell your secrets, have years of experience and are professionals. Remember, your health is the ultimate, most important thing. Stay healthy and have fun.
Picture 7. Counseling (Photo by Tim Gouw from Pexels)