Despite the need to fit in our environment, we all long to be who we truly are. Let’s learn tips for personal improvement plan to be the best version of you. Feature picture: created by rawpixel.com.
As human beings, we have an inherent tendency to avoid standing out from the crowd. Our survival from the very beginning relied on safety. Funny enough; this habit still remains in our nature despite any real need in today’s world.
With the incredible amount of interaction we have with our peers from literally every corner of the globe due to the advancement of social media, the feeling that we must adhere to a predetermined status quo is greater than ever before!
A concept from Carl Jung, namely persona. The word persona is taken from Latin, which means masks used by drama actors. Its function is the same as its name which is as a “mask” that we use when we are in a social situation. Persona is what connects a person’s personality with his environment. Persona is a “mask” that is used to act in accordance with the demands of the social environment.
In the social environment, we certainly have many demands for social roles. We have roles as a wife, as a mother, as a worker, etc. To put it simply, we have many roles. Persona is a “mask” that is used to fulfill the demands of those roles.
What do you look like? We see it from the way you dress, the way you speak, the movements of your body, your choice of vehicle, food, and so on. We sometimes mask our authentic selves. Whether from work colleagues, friend groups, or social media followers. This urge is unavoidable. However, there is so much merit to be found in remaining true to yourself.
Is it wrong when we wear a “mask”? Of course not, because if we look based on the description above, the “mask” is needed to adapt to the environment. Persona is needed to make us accepted in the social environment.
Persona is similar to the superego in Sigmund Freud‘s theory. The persona is a social “mask” that is in accordance with the norms accepted by the social environment. Even so, Jung said that the persona was a mask that had a mirror behind it. So that even though he uses the “mask”, he can still see his “original face”.
Jung describes the persona like this:
The persona is a complicated system of relations between individual consciousness and society . . . a kind of mask, designed on the one hand to make a definite impression upon others, and, on the other, to conceal the true nature of the individual (Jung 1953, p. 192).
When we adjust to using a “social mask” called persona, we will still be able to feel and know about our feelings. For example, we might meet a new person who is not pleasant. We try to be friendly to him, trying to smile and be nice. But even so, we still know that we really do not like the person.
Using the “mask” is tiring. Adapting and meeting social demands is sometimes very tiring, especially when it does not suit us. We also need to take off our “masks” regularly. When? Of course when we are with those closest to us who are willing to accept us as we are.
Why embracing your inner self not only benefits you but can also be a gift to the people around you:
– One of the most wonderful traits we possess as a human being is that each of us is completely unique.
Everyone differs in their individual talents, abilities, perspectives, and so on. When we mask these differences in an attempt to avoid standing out, we deprive ourselves and everyone around us of the true difference that can be made from self-expression. Consider for a minute the greatest inventions and discoveries gifted to mankind up until now. You will find is that these were brought about by people willing to be different and resist the status quo.
Going back to the subject of common traits shared by all of us, whether we know it or not, self-acceptance is one of these traits. When you are able to embrace your inner self, you invite others to do the same.
When those around you notice that you are comfortable with who you are, they are much more likely to follow suit! This ripple effect fosters self-expression and allows everyone to benefit from the fellowship of collective talent and abilities.
Ironically, it takes considerably more effort and energy to blend in than it does to be your true self. Going with the crowd involves a conscious effort to act and behave a certain way at all times. This tendency results in the wasting of a large portion of our mental resources that could be used in much better ways.
The time you spend hiding your uniqueness should be allocated to improving and growing yourself and whatever you strive for in this life. When you are able to combine your inherent talents and this otherwise wasted energy, you are capable of some really incredible things!
– By now, you have certainly realized that life is short.
One of the most painful feelings we can experience is that of regret. By not taking advantage of whatever gifts you possess, there will come a time when you become acutely aware of missed opportunities. Often times, the most monumental opportunities in life come and go in the blink of an eye, unable to be capitalized on when they are gone.
By embracing your inner self, you can mitigate so much regret down the road. Blending in with the crowd has become so habitual for most of us that doing anything else will feel very odd at first. However, if you can make this your new habit, the benefits to you and those around you are more than worth it!
Every human being is blessed with extraordinary potential. Interestingly, humans themselves often do not know their potential with certainty. There are self-potentials that appear by itself, and there are those that must be lured and dug up so that they can finally be seen clearly.
Every human’s potential is different. Although for some aspects there are also those who have something in common. All of these potentials will not be able to appear perfectly if they are not developed properly and in the right ways. Then, what is the development of self-potential like?
Here are 9 tips for personal improvement plan that will make your life more meaningful:
1. Get to know yourself deeply
Many people do not recognize their potential because they are too busy paying attention to the strengths of others. You may be dazzled by the greatness or ability of others who are able to unleash their potential. So, to develop self-potential, first of all, know yourself in depth.
Try again to examine what you really like. Approximately what makes you never get bored doing it. That can be a reference in recognizing the potential that exists within. Also, look for whether you often become a problem solver or have qualified leadership skills when in the midst of a friend environment. By knowing yourself deeper, you will more easily know which potential can be developed and beneficial for your life.
2. Make a purpose in life
Life will never be meaningful if you don’t have a goal or target. Even buses or public transportation have a purpose. Moreover, human life obviously must have a purpose.
By having a goal, your life will be more directed and clearer. Everything you do every day is a step that must be taken to reach the goal. Launch something you want to achieve someday. Once achieved, create new goals with a higher scale. When you can achieve your life’s goals, then you will definitely feel a more meaningful life.
3. Strengthen intention
A goal without a strong intention is only a dream in broad daylight. The intention will help you in developing your potential that has been recognized and explored properly.
This is an element of reinforcement as well as the foundation of the purpose of life that you have planned before. Certainly not a careless intention, but a strong intention that is able to produce a strong determination for the achievement of life goals.
4. Accept every criticism
People who intend to develop their potential are those who are ready to accept criticism. Whatever the criticism, you must learn to accept it. Take advantage of the criticism that comes as a tool for self-evaluation. Everyone has flaws.
However, you still have to filter the criticism that comes your way. Observe whether the criticism really arises from other people that want you to be better. Why? Because there may be people who are not happy with the development of your potential and try to keep you from getting better.
5. Discard negative thoughts
Keep yourself away from negative thoughts. It will only be an obstacle in developing your potential. When you always allow yourself to be engulfed in negative thoughts, you will automatically lose focus and direction. You will only add problems when negative thoughts enter your mind.
Get rid of every negative thought that arises. Thus you can stay awake to stay focused on developing your own potential in order to reach your life goals. When your life is far from negative thoughts, the available energy will be the maximum for you to use to develop every potential you have.
6. Commit to intention and purpose
When the intention is strong, then what you must have next is a large and stable commitment to the intentions and goals of your life. Commitment will keep you trying to achieve everything that has been planned. However difficult the path that must be taken, you must be able to maintain commitment if you want to continue growing.
With a strong commitment, you will be kept on the right track. You will not be easily disturbed by things that can take you off the track to the goal of life. You will not be easy to be tempted by anything else that will make you fail to reach your life goals.
7. Get Positive Friends
The environment will also be influential in developing one’s potential. Therefore choose good friends. Good friends are those who are able to support all the potential you have to develop.
In short, whatever you do to achieve your life’s goals, make sure to get support from friends around you. Having positive friends will indirectly give you the enthusiasm to keep trying to achieve your life goals. With the spirit that continues to surge, the intention will get stronger. There will be no obstacles that can stop your efforts to reach your goals.
8. Try new things
Focusing on your main ability or expertise is indeed a must. But that does not mean you are forbidden to try new things. Keep doing new things that can help you find another potential that is still hidden. Who knows if it turns out you can find another potential that is far greater.
However, do not search for too many new things. When you have found one or two things that are considered as your greatest potential, focus on these things.
In every effort that you do you will surely encounter obstacles. It’s hard to get a straight path in life. Therefore, it takes a sense of optimism even though the obstacles that must be overcome feels very heavy.
This optimistic attitude will help you in evaluating any shortcomings. Then improve it and continue to make efforts so that you can continue to develop your potential. Your potential will never arise if you don’t work on it. Therefore, in an effort to develop self-potential, much-needed will, determination, and a strong commitment.
In addition, do not ever be lazy to learn and accept criticism that comes with an open heart. When you can do these things consistently, then all the potential you have can grow and make your life more meaningful.
Dr. Dan Baker, Director of the Life Enhancement Program – in his book “What Happy People Know” makes writing about the miracle of the relationship between happiness and good deeds to others. You can buy the book in Book Depository by clicking the picture below.
Altruism has been called a great paradox: if you give something to someone, you are the happiest. Giving is receiving. Research shows that happy people are altruistic. And altruistic people are happy. But no researcher can determine which trait comes first. Altruism and happiness are related to each other.
How is this theory related to the discourse of self-development? Very simple actually. When you help others to develop themselves, then, in essence, you are doubling your development. The logic is simple, when we give an understanding of others, that’s when our unconscious understanding of it increases.
So, the best way to learn a subject matter is to teach the material to others. Very simple, by giving then we will receive many times as long as it is based on a sincere intention to help others. Read more about 99 Ways to be Happier here. What is your favorite tip to improve yourself? Please add your comment and I will be more than happy to reply to your comment.